Project Description

LGBTQ is an acronym that consists of both sexualities and genders (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer).

A person’s sexuality does not determine their gender and vice versa.

Sexual Identity is about who we are romantically or sexually attracted to, whilst our gender identity is our psychological sex (how we feel and think of ourselves).

Our Sexuality might be heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual.

Whilst our Gender Identity might be male, female, non-binary, gender fluid, trans.

Some definitions

There are lots of different types of sexuality, below are some definitions which you may feel you relate to although this is not a complete list and more definitions can be found using the Childline link.

  • Heterosexual: when we are attracted to the opposite sex

  • Gay: men who attracted to men.

  • Lesbian: women who are attracted to women

  • Bisexual: attraction to more than one gender.

  • Pansexual: attraction to people regardless of their gender

  • Cisgender (cis): people whose sex and gender match (the opposite of trans)

  • Asexual: a person who doesn’t experience romantic attraction.

  • Queer: a fluid term used by some to refer to LGBT people.

You can find more definitions of common terms to describe sexuality here.

Sexuality

Sexuality and sexual orientation is about who someone feels physically and emotionally attracted to. This can be romantic or emotional attraction, or both.

As we grow up it is natural for us to begin to explore our sexuality. we may start becoming more curious about sex or the changes that happen to our bodies during puberty. We may also begin to start dating and having relationships. Visit our Relationships page for more information and advice relating to this.

As we begin to explore relationships, many people may feel unsure about their sexuality. They may be unsure about who they are attracted to or find that their sexuality changes over time. This is all okay and if this is something you are experiencing it is good to talk to someone you trust about your feelings.

Gender Identity

Our gender identity can include the image of our internal self, pronouns, how we chose to dress, wearing make-up and jewellery.

Our gender identity might be male or female, but it might be:

Non-Binary: people who don’t identify as male or female.

Transgender (Trans): a term for everybody whose gender differs from the sex/gender that they were assigned at birth.

Trans can feel split between their internal and external selves.

Our pronouns might be they/them, ze/hir, E/Em, she/her or he/him.

You can find some more information about pronouns here.

Have you ever questioned your Sexuality or your Gender identity?

We live in a heteronormative society, which mean there is an assumption that everyone is heterosexual.

So if you are not heterosexual and you are questioning your sexuality or your gender, it might leave you feeling isolated as you might not be able to talk to anyone.

‘Coming out’ may not be that easy; if you are not sure if or you know that this will be not accepted by family or friends.

The links below give advice about ‘coming out’.

Information and advice about coming out.

Information and advice about coming out.

A blog post about someone’s experience of coming out.

A document with coming out advice from Stonewall.

A document with advice for coming out from The Proud Trust.

A document with advice for LGBTQ+ and faith from the Proud Trust

Other Useful Resources

Book recommendations:

  • Made by Raffi, by Craig Pomranz
  • Beyond Magenta, by  Susan Kulkin
  • Are You a Boy or Are You a Girl,  by Sarah Savage

The Gender Unicorn

An infographic from TSER, which you can use to explore your gender identity.

Resources for young trans people.

LGBTQ Support

Support for gender-diverse children, young people and their families

Message boards where you can talk to other young people about sexuality and gender identity.

Advice for if you experiencing homophobic or transphobic bullying and abuse.

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