Project Description

Being in a relationship can be exciting. Spending your time getting to know some who makes you happy, has similar interests to you and makes you feel good.

Relationships can also be quite daunting. Whether it is not knowing how to talk to someone you like, facing rejection, feeling pressure to do things you’re not comfortable with or ready for, there is often a lot to learn about the dating world (and most of the time the people around you will pretend to know more than they actually do!).

As you begin to explore relationships you may also be thinking about who you are attracted to along with other elements of your sexuality or gender. If you have questions about this have a look at our Sexuality and Gender Identity page for more information and advice.

Healthy relationships

It is important to remember that all relationships are different, however it is also important to recognise that there are some qualities that should be present in all healthy relationships, these are Communication, Respect, Best interests, Trust, Equality.

Please remember that it is not okay for someone to make you feel scared, unsafe or upset. If something feels wrong and you have an instinct you may need to reach out then speak to an appropriate adult or professional service.

‘Think u know’ share more helpful insights when considering and recognising healthy and unhealthy relationships.

Healthy relationships (thinkuknow.co.uk)

Safe Sex:

It may feel awkward or daunting beginning to open the conversation and talk about sex, you may be feeling anxious about being judged, worried what people might say or you may feel that you will questioned if you have had sex or not. You may feel embarrassed that you don’t know certain things or feel silly if others know more than you.

Everyone has questions about sex and you should always be able to ask about sex without being embarrassed. Below is the link of Childline filled with questions, answers and advice regarding all things to do with sex. You may have questions regarding whether you are ready, questions around sexual consent, even questions around preparing to have sex yourself. Whatever is on your mind you can seek advice from trusted adults around you as well as professionals.

https://www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/friends-relationships-sex/sex-relationships/sex/

Other places you can get advice:

Want more advice about sex? These sites can help.

Exploitation

Sometimes people will try to exploit us in our relationships. Child Sexual Exploitation (CSE) is a form of sexual abuse that involves manipulation of young people under the age of 18 into sexual activity. It can cause anxiety and leave young people traumatised. It is important that you talk to someone you trust and seek support.

It’s not all right for someone to:

  • Threaten to end your relationship if you don’t have sex.
  • Ask or make you have sex with other people.
  • Expect sex in return for food or a place to stay.
  • Share drugs or alcohol with you in return for sexual acts.
  • Threaten to stop being friends if you don’t perform sexual dares.
  • Give you gifts or money in return for sexual acts.
  • Ask you to take sexual photos of yourself or share them online or by text.
  • Threaten to humiliate or share sexual images of you if you don’t carry out more sex acts.

– See more at: http://www.wiltshire.gov.uk/cse-advice-young-for-people#sthash.4LpBrIUw.dpuf

Visit here if you are worried about online sexual abuse.

This app allows you to keep flirty chat on track. If someone’s trying to get you to send nudes, use the Zipit app to keep the situation under control.

Information and advice about sexting, including a way to share anything you are concerned about anonymously.

LGBTQ+

LGBTQ is an acronym that consists of both sexualities and genders (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer).

A person’s sexuality does not determine their gender and vice versa.

Sexual Identity is about who we are romantically or sexually attracted to, whilst our gender identity is our psychological sex (how we feel and think of ourselves).

Our Sexuality might be heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual.

Whilst our Gender Identity might be male, female, non-binary, gender fluid, trans.

Sexuality and Gender Identity – On Your Mind

Domestic Abuse

Domestic abuse/ violence can occur in many situations and circumstances, it happens when one person hurts or bullies another person who is or was their partner, whether you are living together or separately. Although domestic abuse most commonly occurs between adults, young people can be deeply affected by what they see and hear, and can experience their own abuse from the violence. Domestic abuse can be, Emotional, Physical, Sexual and Financial. For more information, support and guidance see the link below:
What’s Abuse | The Hide Out